mAy I kNoW yOur fRieNd...??

In most of the social gatherings, I usually get bored hanging with the same set of people around me! But still, I find it very difficult to go and start a conversation with the 'unknowns'. Why? 

- I don't know what the other person may feel about me?

- I'm highly conscious about my self esteem! In case, the other person doesn't show any interest in talking with me; I may screw my self esteem for that day and will become more conscious to talk with anyone else thereafter.

- I may find a bit awkward & embarrassing if they start knowing me better than I have actually thought of. We all are resistant to be informative (about ourselves) at some or the other point! The situation may worsen up and I may land up with some awful experience with the other person/group of persons.

And when my mom/ dad/ friends ask me to go & talk to other people, my excuses, holding these beliefs are:

- I'm enjoying myself. Don't worry.

- I don't know her/ him. I don't find any reason to talk to her/ him either way. 

- I'm not feeling like talking with her/ him. S/he seems to be busy.

- Someone told me, s/he is very aggressive!

My mom usually doesn't force me. But my dad is extreme in this matter. He may call all those persons and start introducing me to them & when they start asking me all weird questions, and attacking me with all of their free (worthless) advises,  meanwhile he will leave the battlefield! This is sick! And his way of introducing anybody, man... is so humorous! The person may feel himself a celebrity/ some VIP alike, for a while! LOL. And, I've no doubt in saying that my dad really has a weird style of introducing others (typical Bong style). 

And some of my friends are so kind to me, eventhough I'm tired of their kindness. 

Trust your roomie, but never trust your neighbor for God sake! Coz, they won't open the doors, when they are needed! 

Are you wondering 'why'? Then let me share with you an incident...

It was the Freshers' week, 'Hafta-de-Hakuna-Matata' means 'week of no worries', but trust me, the name was exactly opposite to that of the reality!

It was the real week of worries... As because, there were some terrible guidelines which every fresher has to follow for the entire week. If anyone will not follow, the Freshers' Party may get screwed! 

And one of the weirdest rule of 'Hafta-de-Hakuna-Matata' was that every fresher has to propose a senior (un-/ willingly) & ask her / him for a date, for the Freshers' night; then only s/he (the fresher) can get 'the' chance to participate in the events held throughout the week and also get a scope to become Miss/ Mr. Fresher! 

It was lunch time, at the mess.. 

Me: Hmmm... a date huh?

222: Guys!!!! <3 <3 <3

Miss KFC: All bullshit...

224: What's going on your mind 222??

Me: What you're expecting?

222: Gals.. I've decided whom to propose..

Me (with one eyebrow up): Is that.....

Miss KFC: Who else it can be...!!

224: Are you serious 222?

222 (speaking with a childish glee): Relax.. I've plans for everyone!

Me: No way.. I'm over & out!

Miss KFC: Debo, count me IN..

224: What? Who? For me...?

222: ... that I've not decided.. but for these two, I've.. aheeeemmm..

Miss KFC: I'm done, Debo.. moron eat fat, we will be late!

Me: Yeah.. Yeah.. Almost done...

(224 still staring 222...)

222: Okay.. Let's everyone meet after the class, I'll say you the plan! 

Me: Shut up! Just finish your meal fast. You're also getting late.

(224 continued to stare 222.... And I & Miss KFC left..)

It was OB (Organisation Behavior) class. And let me tell you something about our OB Prof., she is just too awesome. Even if, you hold no interest in the subject, you're bound to listen to her everytime she speaks. She is a perfect mesmerizer!

After the class got over, we were back to hostel as the next class would start again from 5:30pm. It was 3:30pm.. So, I just laid on my bed. And within few minutes...

"Polu.. Get up.. It's time to discuss the plan!" ~ 222

"Get lost!" ~ Me

 "You're sooo boring polu...." ~ 222

"......."  me almost dead "Let me sleep please...."

And I don't remember what else she did afterwards.. 

(After 2 days..)

Me (kicking 222's door very hard): Open the door!

222: Why? What you want??

Miss KFC had suddenly appeared..

Me: What you did huh??? You think yourself too smart or what!! 

Miss KFC (showing me her mobile): Just look at this message.. What should I reply to him now???? Who the hell has told her (222) to ask him on behalf of me!!! 

222: It was the part of my plan.... (shouting from inside)

Me: Plan....???? Or punishment??? You better open the door, or I swear we gonna break it..

(No sound from inside for next 15 minutes... We were at halt! After maintaining 15 minutes of silence, the door was opened..)

222: Get in...

Without speaking a single word, we both (me & Miss KFC) entered her room.

For another 15 minutes, we continued the silence zone.. And then finally I somehow dared to break it!

Me: Why? Have I told you to ask Mr. Financier? (one of the senior, into Finance specialization.. And I still have no idea, why the hell 222 gave a proposal to him from my side, &, without my permission! In this way, actually I've screwed my opportunity to give a proposal to that senior whom I wanted to...!)

Miss KFC: And why the hell did you ask Mr. Garba? (lol, guys, it's another senior, actually he was Miss KFC's dance partner for the Garba Dance in Navratri festival..)

222: (silent)

Me: What??? Say something... 

222: I just tried to help my friends... 

Now, at this point, we were dumbstruck! I was wondering, as if we're still in kindergardens!

Me: Have you totally lost it..

Miss KFC: Wait Debo! 222, tell us the full story.

And she looked at us for the first time, eyes full with tears...

Me: Has he...?

222: Hmmm... He rejected my proposal. 

Kiss KFC: We knew that.. And that's why we tried to warn you that day only..

222: You warned...!!! You people just ignored it...

Me: Probably that's our style of warning you.... LOL

Miss KFC: So.. What's now?

222: You people enjoy.. I've settled out the things for you gals no...

Me: I still can't believe... I already have apologized before him..

222: Apology?? For what???

Me: You can't go with anyone, right?? And for me, I just want to enjoy with my friends.. that's all.. So I said sorry to him.. Got that?

222: Welcome to the club! (smiled with joy, for the first time)

Miss KFC: I'm also joining the club gals.. I'll say him sorry..

And this way, we ended up this episode! But it was really embarrassing.. As because you've to deal with something, out of someone else's  mischief(s)!

(After few months....)

"May I know your friend's name?" ~ I asked a gal in an engineering college campus. And I wasn't feeling like asking her that way... But anyways I did.

I was on a live project of NIIT, it was basically related to the promotional campaigns for NIIT's Cloud Campus Program. It was a team of 3 heads, me & 2 other guys of my college. Well.. They were roommates! I don't really understand why 'roomieship' is sooo popular among boys! It's like, 'wherever you go, I'll follow'! Anyways, the management had given a separate territory to each team. Each territory, consisting of 3-4 (technical) colleges. 

Well.. We started off our journey! We visited the 1st college.. Guess what! No one gave us a shit..! (metaphorical)

Next.. 2nd College.. The Principal literally took our class instead we promoted any NIIT stuffs, he promoted his college & management programs...! Freaked Out...!!

3rd College.. "Debo..! You start off.. We'll follow you.." And they vanished.. Later on, I rediscovered them in the college cafeteria (3rd College's), smoking at a corner side! And this ought me to say again, "Men will be men!"

But the experience there, wasn't that much horrifying.. We did the assigned activities effectively. But the worst part was the 'lead generation' kinda stuff while collecting feedback(s), where you're supposed to ask all the crap questions which literally make 'nonsense shits'! Why? Coz, people buy from people whom they like.. Likability becomes the major priority!! And.. Unless & until, sales happen.. how come you count on the feedback(s) of the mass out there?? They're still suspects.. I guess!! Though I agree that Promotional activities are meant to increase the likability.. But do you mind if I ask you to get me the exact numbers of prospects after 1-2 such promo campaigns?? That too for 'a service'?? That too for such service, which have 'n' no. of substitutes, available in the market..! Ooops!!

Anyways, for the 4th college, we dint find any.. We were lost.. Both physically & mentally!! So we gave them (the management) an excuse.. "We dint find the address!!"

Emotions triggered that day.. And I was stuck with 5W1H! I was stuck in a dilemma! Dilemma of being an introvert, or, a narcissist.. I was fussed off!! 

An introvert?? Or, a narcissist?? Big question! 

Well.. I guess there lies a 3rd category in between this two.. Think! Or, a separate emotion that differentiate a person from this two..! Think again!

Forget all.. 

What if I say.. It's not at all 'the personality trait'.. Personality keeps on changing.. Personality is situational.. Alike Leadership.. 

It's different modes!!

Will you agree?? No?? Okay.. Check this out!

http://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20130415121533-117825785-it-s-modes-not-personality-traits

Do you still believe your so called personality trait?? I don't.. Coz, neither I'm an introvert, nor a narcissist.. I'm so damn moody!! LOL

Aren't you??

Well.. I can understand.. If you still believe the person standing next to you is soo strange to talk to.. That doesn't mean you're.. Whatever!! But one thing is sure.. that person isn't that much likable to you or vice versa..!! Figure it out!! 

mOtiVatiOn is diRecTly prOpoRtiOnaL tO sUccEsS...!

Research by Forest Tennant, M.D., Ph.D., shows that regular doses of motivation will increase your success. Dr. Tennant, one of the top drug experts in the world, has been a consultant for the NFL, NASCAR, the Los Angeles Dodgers, Abbott Laboratories, Texaco, and many others.

Dr. Tennant attended a seminar of Zig Ziglar, conducted in Anaheim, California. Before the seminar had started, he (Dr. Tennant) took blood samples from 5 persons in the audience. When the seminar ended four hours later, he again took blood samples from those 5 persons. The endorphin* and cortisol levels had increased by 300%. Since then Dr. Tennant has conducted additional experiments and has made these fascinating findings:

There is a biochemical basis for why people feel good after these talks. Something hearing about success, gives us an emotional charge that releases those chemicals into the bloodstream and that makes the body function better. And while these effects last for no more than a few hours, regular doses of motivation will lead to better health, happiness, and achievement.

What is endorphin*? 

In the early 1970s,  researchers were studying how the brain is affected by opiates, such as heroin & morphine. They found that opiates interact with specialized receptors in cells that are primarily massed in the brain and spinal cord. When opiates enter these receptors, they hinder or block the cell's transmission of pain signals. But why, wondered the scientists studying this phenomenon, would these specialized receptors exist in the first place? The most plausible answer was that opioid receptors exist due to the presence of an opiate like substance produced naturally in the body.

Enters endorphin: your own private narcotic!

Endorphins are neurotransmitters, chemicals that pass along signals from one neuron to the next. Neurotransmitters play a key role in the function of the central nervous system and can either prompt or suppress the further signaling of nearby neurons.

Endorphins are  produced as a response to certain stimuli, especially stress, fear or pain. They originate in various parts of your body - the pituitary gland (the major endocrine gland, a pea-sized body attached to the base of the brain that is important in controlling growth and development and the functioning of the other endocrine glands), your spinal cord and throughout other parts of your brain & nervous system - and interact mainly with receptors in cells found in regions of the brain responsible for blocking pain and controlling emotion.